If you’re a new mum reading this through blurry eyes, clutching your fifth cup of tea (cold, obviously), and wondering if you’ll ever feel rested again—welcome to the club, the Tired Mum Club. We see you. We are you. And no, you’re not the only one dreaming of a full night’s sleep like it’s the unattainable Holy Grail.
Let’s break down why you’re so tired (because it’s not just “the baby doesn’t sleep”):
1. You’re on Baby Time Now
Time? What even is that? Babies don’t care about clocks, schedules, or your need for eight hours of uninterrupted rest. They’re all about that 24/7 party lifestyle. Need a bottle at 2 a.m.? Sure. Want cuddles at 4:15 a.m.? Absolutely. Want to practice their new screeching sound at 5 a.m.? Go for it.
2. Feeding Is a Full-Time Job
Whether you’re breastfeeding, bottle-feeding, or a combo of both, feeding a newborn is relentless. You’re either pumping, preparing bottles, or playing the guessing game of “Why won’t they latch right now?” And it doesn’t stop there—burping, spit-up, and outfit changes (for both of you) add a whole new layer to the fun.
3. Your Brain Is on Overdrive
You thought the mental load of being a mum was a myth? Think again. Is the baby eating enough? Sleeping enough? Why is the poop that colour? When was the last time they smiled? Did I order more nappies? Oh, and don’t forget about the rest of life—bills, laundry, and remembering to shower (eventually). Your brain never gets a break, which is exhausting in itself.
4. Postpartum Recovery
Your body just did something huge. Whether you had a vaginal birth, a C-section, or a stork delivery (we wish), your body is in full-on healing mode. Plus, hormones are doing their wild dance—cue the night sweats and emotional rollercoasters.
5. Nap Traps
“Sleep when the baby sleeps,” they said. But when the baby finally naps, you’re either catching up on chores, staring at your tiny human because they’re so cute, or just scrolling Instagram in a zombified state. Somehow, nap time ends, and you’re even more of a tired mum than before.
6. The Emotional Tiredness
The love you feel for your baby is enormous—but so is the responsibility. You’re their everything, and that can feel heavy. Add in moments of self-doubt, the occasional meltdown (yours or theirs), and wondering if you’re “doing it right,” and it’s no wonder your emotions are running you ragged.
7. Everyone Wants a Piece of You
Your baby needs you. Your partner needs you. Your friends want to visit. Your phone is buzzing. But what about you? There’s barely a moment to breathe, let alone recharge.
Here’s the Good News
You’re not alone in this beautifully exhausting chaos. Every new mum feels it. And while it’s completely normal to be bone-tired, here’s what you need to remember:
- It gets better. (Promise!) Sleep will come back into your life, slowly but surely.
- You’re doing an amazing job. Even on the days when you feel like you’re barely holding it together, your baby thinks you’re a superstar.
- It’s okay to ask for help. Lean on your village—whether that’s family, friends, or even online mum groups. You don’t have to do it all alone.
So, pour yourself another cup of tea (or wine, no judgment here), let the laundry pile up for one more day, and remind yourself: tired mum or not, you’re the best mum your baby could ever ask for.
Now, go stare at that sweet sleeping face and soak up the love (before they wake up again).
