Watching your baby grow is incredible, but it can also bring unexpected worries—especially when milestones seem to come more slowly than the baby books suggest. If you’ve ever found yourself Googling “should my baby be crawling by now?” at 3 AM, you’re not alone! Let’s talk about why milestone anxiety is common but often unnecessary—and why your baby is likely doing just fine.
The Reality of Milestones (and Why They Aren’t Deadlines)
Milestones are averages, not strict deadlines. Some babies walk at nine months, others at 18 months, and both are perfectly normal. Some babble early, some are quiet observers. I’ve met so many parents at baby classes convinced their little one was “behind,” only to see them suddenly catch up in their own time.
For example, one mum at Adventure Babies worried because her 10-month-old wasn’t clapping or waving, while every other baby in class seemed to be applauding the storyteller! A few weeks later, her little one suddenly started clapping and waving non-stop—almost like she’d been saving up her skills for a grand debut.
Why Babies Develop at Their Own Pace
Every baby has their own unique timeline because so many factors influence development, from personality to birth experience. Some babies are cautious and like to observe before they act. Others are adventurous and jump right into everything (literally!).
I once met a baby who didn’t roll over until nearly eight months—but by 10 months, she was speed-crawling everywhere. Another baby didn’t babble much as a newborn, but then surprised everyone with full, clear words before their first birthday. These differences are normal.
When Should You Worry?
True developmental delays exist, but they are much less common than the internet might make you think. If you have concerns, chatting with your health visitor or GP is always a good idea—but most of the time, a baby who isn’t following the milestone “schedule” is just taking their own route.
In the meantime, engaging in sensory play, talking, reading, and exploring the world together is the best way to support your baby. And guess what? They’ll get there when they’re ready.
A Final Reassurance
Your baby isn’t behind. They’re just being themselves. And if you’re feeling worried, you’re not failing as a parent—you’re just doing what loving parents do.
So take a breath, step away from the milestone charts, and enjoy your baby exactly as they are today. 
